“It’s the weirdest thing. I can give a high-stakes presentation to a roomful of decision-makers and I’m fine, but if I’m in a group and we have to go around the room and introduce ourselves and say a few words, I’m a nervous wreck!”
This comment from a client I was talking to recently really resonated with me. I hear this a lot, and in fact sometimes feel that way myself.
I don’t know exactly why this happens, but I have a few guesses. When we’re doing a keynote or a presentation, we know it’s coming and we’re psychologically prepared. The “hey, let’s all introduce ourselves” is unexpected, and plus it’s in a room with people you’ll be spending time with for the next several hours at least, most likely. We want to make a good first impression.
Then there’s the wild card element of “say a few words.” What are we supposed to focus on? Which few words? What is that person over there going to say? Oh great, the first person was super-articulate and poised and now how do I follow that? How many people before I have to talk…one, two, three…okay five more people. I could mention our new project, or the last book I read, or, or, or…
We’re not listening to the people before us because we’re thinking of our own introduction. Our brains are revving, trying to find the “right” answer.
Here’s my advice. Let your intention be to connect with everyone in the room. Identify one thing you want these folks to know about you. Don’t try to cram your life story or your resume into the “few words.” Pick one thing, take a few deep breaths, smile, stand, and speak at a normal pace.
You got this.
