Why isn’t “to get it right” a good intention? Isn’t it important to get it right?
When we’re thinking about needing to get it right, we’re thinking about ourselves. We’re holding onto achievement and getting an A, rather than being willing to be vulnerable, attempt genuine connection, and risk failure.
One way to think about this is to reframe what “getting it right” means. Let’s forget “getting all the words in the order I wrote them down,” and “running through all my bullet points.” Instead, what if getting it right means that the people we are talking to walk away feeling changed or motivated or ready to think about something differently? What if they remember your message, not because you said it just how you planned, but because they were moved by who you are?
