I Can’t Hear You When I’m Looking at My Phone

It was a busy morning in our house, and I needed to leave early. I asked my kids to do several things before they left for school. 

The first thing I asked my daughter to do involved looking up information on her phone. While she was doing that, I said, “Please make sure to get the recycling out to the street, and close the garage door.”

I headed out to my car. As I started the engine, I was looking straight into the open garage, with the recycling sitting inside it. In my rearview mirror, my daughter was getting into her own car.  What was going on here?

I got out of my car and jogged over to her window. “Hey, I needed you to get the recycling to the street.” She looked at me, totally bewildered. “You did?”

As she ran into the garage to deal with it, I thought back. I was in a hurry to get out of the house, so I lobbed a list of requests in her direction, not bothering to make sure she received them. And key to this was that the first thing she was doing involved a task on the phone. Her brain was occupied with the visual task of searching and swiping, so she literally couldn’t hear me.

https://www.medicaldaily.com/we-exhibit-inattentional-deafness-sound-while-focusing-visual-tasks-your-friend-364556

New plan: I’m not going to talk to anyone while they’re finishing up a task on their phone, and by the same token, I’ll ask someone who wants to speak with me to wait just a second until I can give them my full attention.

I’m taking a sabbatical from writing new blog posts. You’ll be seeing some re-runs and old favorites for the next little while. You can always write me back with suggestions or ideas just by responding to this email!